“The kingdom of God does not come with observation; nor will they say,
‘See here!’ or ‘See there!’ For indeed, the kingdom of God is within you” Luke 17:20-21
How often do we fall short of perfection and let the frustration we feel make us think we are inadequate? A perfectionist is described as a person: “who strives for flawlessness, for a perfect creation, outcome, or performance.
I started flying in August 1993, right after the weight checks for flight attendants ended in the US. We were still kept to a high standard of appearance, dressed in tailored fit uniforms, perfect makeup application, fashion-forward shoes measured by heel size, and not a hair out of place. We were told to be friendly, smile big, and be a shining light for all that boarded our plane.
I partly think I was drawn to yoga because of the opposite dress code. I could show up in my comfy yoga pants, no makeup, flip flops, and my hair a mess and feel perfectly at home!
For many years, I proudly considered myself a perfectionist, and I thought that was a good thing for a long time. Someone who focuses on wearing every hat, everything ideally in place and no detail missed.
I ran my yoga studio from this mindset for many years. Perfectionists often find it difficult to delegate, even if that means neglecting their health, relationships, and wellbeing. I ran myself in the ground by teaching more classes than you can imagine, my relationships were hurting, and my health was declining. I was dropping the ball a lot.
From the outside, my life looked great, but behind closed doors, I was struggling!
What do perfectionists do when they struggle? They don’t ask for help. Instead, they look at what others are doing. In today’s world, social networks and apps that polish and shrink us can be addictive drugs for those suffering from this perfection syndrome. The airbrushed pictures of a perfect life can often leave us falling victim to the well-known trap of comparison when we look at what others have and compare it to our own. Our internal belief system is we are not good enough, so we need to do more. However, if we are constantly learning or proving our worth—even if it’s to ourselves—we are running on a never-ending treadmill of external achievements that will never bring us a joy that lasts.
Always keep in mind that true internal acceptance and peace do not come from changing what is outside of you. On the contrary, lasting change always entails shifting and understanding what’s inside of you.
How frequently have you wondered whether you have what it takes to fulfill God’s purposes for your life? How often do you look outside yourself, comparing your purpose to another?. How often does perfectionism stop you in your tracks?
There is not a person who can follow Christ without the help of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit sees everything that goes on. He knows what goes on in our hearts. He knows what goes on in our minds. Nothing is hidden from Him. The Holy Spirit is not outside of you. It is within you